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Creating Silence: A Lesson From Ice Fishing

This past weekend my best friends, both adventurers, graciously invited me alongside my better-half to go to Lake Simcoe for our very first ice fishing excursion.

It was glorious.

The image of the snow as it danced in the wind overtop the smooth sheet of black ice is an image I will never forget in my mind’s eye.  The elation feeling your line nibbled on by the first catch of cold-water perch is a feeling I wish I could capture in a box, and take take out for later use.  It was exhilarating being able to enjoy the steaming hot kamut-spelt pancakes cooked over an open flame and garnished with a dash of cinammon, fresh maple syrup and sliced bananas while ice fishing on the lake.  I felt like a child, looking up at the expansive dark sky and admiring the majestic stars, all of which cannot be seen in the city for all the lights.  I had not seen the stars since our last group excursion to Bobcaygeon with close friends in the September that just passed, and I enjoyed nostalgic-goodness from having enjoyed such a lovely, nature-grounding weekend trip.

One of my siblings recently moved up north, past Peterborough.  When I had initially heard of the move, for the life of me I could not fathom why on earth they would want to move from the hustle and bustle of the city, to a rural neighbourhood where water is drawn from a local well, homes are surrounded by dense forests and where there were only two lanes of roads: one for incoming traffic, and the other for outgoing traffic.  At the time, I was told it was peaceful. Quiet.  That the stillness of the surroundings become addictive.  I experienced a fleeting moment of what this actually meant this past weekend while ice fishing – looking out over the water, watching a lone goose cross the lake in the distance and listening to the quiet rumble of the ground as the ice shifted below our feet.  It was an opportunity for me to reflect on the creation of silence from all the noise, distraction, clutter and chaos of city living.  Though I am a blatant fan of the lights, large crowds and busyness of the city, it was in this silence that I found refuge.

Coming home, I am reminded it is necessary to make time for quiet moments such as these. It is a reminder that silence can be powerful and therapeutic.  If you are a person that is afraid of creating silence, perhaps it is time to take a hard look at yourself and understand why we are afraid of the silence.  Is it because silence forces you to perhaps notice the empty feeling you have been ignoring, perhaps it makes you feel unproductive, or perhaps it is a reprieve from much-needed contemplation?

It is no secret we live in what has been termed, “the age of distraction”. Everyday we are exposed to an onslaught of purveyors of distractions – iphones, ipods, social networks, dismal world news, alluring advertisements telling us we require products, tummy tucks, botox, clothes to attain inner beauty and happiness.  Today, I extend an invitation to you to tune out these distractors, quiet your mind, breathe and to try to create the much-needed silence for your health.

The Book of Awesome by Neil Pasricha is a book I keep in my office and enjoy flipping through to remind me to slow the whirlwind of thoughts that can enter my mind throughout the day.  I find it is one tool that can help rein in wayward thoughts, particularly on days it feels difficult, or more challenging, to choose to be happy (even as a Naturopathic Doctor, there are those days).

Being healthy and well takes work, even for the most grounded, optimistic and authentic persons.  The first step is increasing your awareness of your own set of internal rules, your own tendencies, the negative and positive scripts you tell yourself repeatedly each day.  Sometimes it helps to have someone guide you in the proverbial “right” direction, so you can facilitate the necessary changes for improved or sustained health and wellbeing.  For more ideas about how to achieve this balance, please feel free to contact us.  As your Naturopathic Doctor, I am here to help you.

Healthy Work-Life Balance

As a Naturopathic Doctor, patients often come into my office looking for tips to enhance their work-life balance.  According to the Government of Canada, work-life balance is a self-defined, self-determined state of well-being which allows people the ability to effectively manage multiple responsibilities at home, at work and in the community.  To get a head start on the New Year, I have listed some helpful tips for you to try out to attain that much-needed balance:

1) Prioritize.  Simplify your schedule and prioritize important tasks.  By focusing on completing the most important tasks, this will increase the impact of the time you spend working and decrease the time you need to work to get those big ticket items on your agenda out of the way.  Understand that everything worth having requires a time commitment, so focus on tasks/relationships/work/community issues that matter the most to you.  By doing so, you begin to create a life that is meaningful and fulfilling to you.  If you find yourself getting side-tracked, write down or print off your prioritized list and keep it in a visible area as a constant reminder.

2) Plan.  Plan what you are going to do each day, pick the top three things you need or want to accomplish and get those done first.  Plan to take a day off and stick with it.  Plan to make time to sit down with your family during meal times.  Plan your weekly menu for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks so you only need to make one trip to the grocery store during a hectic week.  It is amazing how preparing your lunch and snacks for yourself and the kids the night before can contribute to decreasing the stress of the usual early morning scramble.  Feel extra ambitious some nights of the week?  Prep hearty vegetables for meals during the week, julienning your carrots, celery, the cutting the ends off your green beans, pulling apart the romaine leaves in advance for your salad the next day so they are ready to be washed, cooked and consumed.  Plan to schedule time for leisure and exercise, like you do work.

3) Declutter.  Declutter your home, car, bedroom, family room, computer and workspace.  Cleaning up your environmental disarray will also help you “clean up” mental clutter.  You also get to enjoy the added benefits of having an anesthetically-pleasing space, a space that is easier to navigate and easier to clean.  It reduces unproductive time reshuffling, sorting and clearing away papers that can easily accumulate into towers, and minimizes you scrambling around, having all your family members look for misplaced keys, phones, meeting notes, bills etc.

4) Set realistic goals and limits.  If you know that a given task/commitment takes 8 hours, don’t schedule it into a 3 hour window.  Give yourself the 8 hours plus some additional time to account for the unexpected.  Also learn to say ‘no’ to a request that is not an identified priority.  This can be uncomfortable for people-pleasers, but remember that it is necessary.

5) Accept that the work day ends when you leave the office.  Work while you are at work, and don’t work when you are not.  After you leave the office, turn off your work mobile.  Check emails regarding work while at work.  At the end of the work day, you have devoted your fair share of time to your job and in order to maintain balance, you owe it to yourself and your family to devote time to them.  Don’t fall prey to the blur between work and life!